The Problem with Praise

Praise focuses on external value instead of internal value.  I'm (only) of value 
when someone else validates me or thinks I'm of value, which increases being susceptible to peer pressure and needing the acceptance of others rather than being able to feel good about themselves and listen to their own internal voice, or to have confidence in themselves outside of what others' think.    
Keep in mind it's important to have more positive than negative interactions in all relationships.

Summer Motivation

If motivation is a bucket to be filled; it is filled with raindrops collected over time, not a one time event.

5 Strategies to Calm Stress at Home

We live busy lives and in a high stress culture. 
What can you do to help de-stress and calm your kids? 

8 steps to Teach Delayed Gratification

How do you teach your child
  • To be patient?
  • To be able to wait for things?
  • To set goals and work toward something in the future?
  • To feel confident in multi-step problem solving?

Here are a few ideas to work on this summer. 

What Stops Your Kids from Listening to You?

Below is a list of 12 Roadblocks to communication. 
Each of these shut down communication with others. 
Which ones do you see yourself doing 
and how is it impacting your relationships? 

Talk about Sex

It's more than the fireworks 
and they aren't waiting until they are Independent. 

Social Media & Gaming

Social Media and Gaming are two things that parents express great concern over regarding their kids.  How much is too much? Is it an addiction? Shouldn't they be doing other things? 

What Parents can do


How do you increase your child's motivation?
External motivation is based on fear, avoidance of discomfort & seeking pleasure. We use this type of motivation when we nag, punish, threaten, reward or praise to get compliance.

Successful Summer Plans

Some ideas to create a great summer! 

Make Homework Easier

Make Homework Easier

Homework is a source of conflict in many homes. Here are some strategies to help reduce conflict and use it as an opportunity for building life skills.

1-Change Homework time to "Study Time"

One way kids avoid homework is to "not have any," not remember, or forget it at school. If there is a regular study time, regardless of homework, those arguments don't work.

When no homework is due tomorrow, study time can be used to work on a project due in the future, study for a test, review notes, reading, or organize school work or backpack.

2- Regular Routine

Keep study time in the same location of the house and same time of day as much as possible. The more regularity, the less hassles you will have.

3- Set-up

Teach kids to "set-up" or prepare before starting homework. Have them check to see if they have their supplies, water, etc., before starting. With help, this habit can carry over to all areas of life, reducing their dependance on you.

4- Use a Timer

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