Yelling is a bad habit any of us can fall into, often out of frustration. It doesn’t work, but it does cause damage to people and relationships. Here are 5 questions to ask yourself about yelling.
1. Is is working? Am I getting the results I wanted? Is behavior improving in this area?
2. Would I allow someone else (a teacher or neighbor) to treat my child this way? Why not?
3. Would I treat other people this way? (co-workers, neighbors)
4. What ARE the results of my yelling?
- Lower self-esteem
- Llower self-confidence
- Shame
- Embarrassment
- Damaged relationships
- Increased anger
Words can either hurt or heal.
The impact can last forever.
What do you want to use your words for?
5. What can I do instead?
- Re-teach
- Retrain
- Do it together
- Turn it into a game
- Problem-solving together when everyone is calm
- Logical consequences
- Give yourself a time out until you are calm
